Last Updated on by Chris Thompson
In this post, I’m going to teach you how to NOT cum so quickly so that you and your partner can start enjoying sex again and take your sexual relationship to whole new levels.
By reading this page, you will learn:
- How you can last longer in bed TONIGHT
- How you can satisfy any woman at any time
- How you can learn to control your ejaculation reflex
There are a large number of techniques and treatments available for premature ejaculation, which makes finding a cure for the problem seem a bit overwhelming. Factors such as how easy they are to implement, how affordable they are and how effective they are will all contribute towards your selection of treatment(s).
Fortunately, I’m here to walk you through all your options and offer my personal recommendations so that you can make an informed decision about how you proceed from this point onward.
- 0.1 What is Premature Ejaculation?
- 0.2 Why Do I Bust so Quick?
- 0.3 Ways To Not Cum SO Quick
- 0.4 1. Use the Stamina Training Unit
- 0.5 2. Use PC Muscles to Last Longer
- 0.6 What are Kegels?
- 0.7 What do I need to do?
- 0.8 3. Behavioral Strategies
- 0.9 4. Lots of Foreplay
- 0.10 5. Use the Squeeze Technique
- 0.11 6. Masturbation (Jacking off Before Sex)
- 0.12 7. Switch Positions Before Cummin
- 1 Do You Bust a Nut SO Fast?
What is Premature Ejaculation?
But first, let’s take a look at what premature ejaculation is.
According to this Harvard University article, premature ejaculation is defined as “ejaculation during the early stages of sexual excitement or soon after the insertion of the penis into the vagina“.
This usually means that a man reaches orgasm a lot sooner than their sexual partner, resulting in their partner feeling unfulfilled and dissatisfied and themselves feeling anxious and depressed.
Even in the most loving partnerships, “busting a nut so fast” can put a lot of stress and strain on the relationship and can even result in the relationship breaking down irreparably due to the tension and frustration it creates.
Therefore, finding a solution for how to not bust quick is a very important priority for many couples.
NOTE: Premature Ejaculation should not be confused with Erectile Dysfunction or Impotence (when a man has difficulty getting an erection or their erection is not hard enough to penetrate), however one of these afflictions can sometimes lead to the other.
Broadly speaking, the reasons why you nut so fast can be split into two categories; physical and psychological.
Physical causes of premature ejaculation are often associated with men who have developed the condition over a short period of time (i.e. it has not been a life-long problem). It can indicate an underlying disease or illness as the true cause, such as:
- Prostate disease
- Hypertension (high blood pressure)
- Drug abuse
If you have suddenly started to have premature ejaculation problems it is recommended you get yourself checked out by your doctor before using the techniques below to rule out another illness being the root cause.
Psychological causes of premature ejaculation are often associated with men that have suffered with this issue most of their life.
One of the most common psychological causes is self-conditioning to ejaculate quickly. During adolescence, it may be necessary for a man to ejaculate quickly during sexual intercourse or masturbation and this habit remains in adulthood. Traumatic sexual experiences can also be a cause.
In addition, psychological illnesses such as anxiety, depression and even too much stress can also cause you to cum too quick.
Ways To Not Cum SO Quick
As I mentioned earlier, perhaps the best way to start dealing with premature ejaculation problems is to visit your doctor. Although I highly recommend that this be your first port-of-call, I also understand that it can be very daunting for men to talk about bedroom problems with a medical professional.
Therefore, I’ve provided a list of treatments and techniques that can help you hold your nut longer without visiting your doctor.
1. Use the Stamina Training Unit
One of the best ways to learn to control ejaculation is with regular sex, but that is not an option for many men. So, in reality, it makes sense to have a product that is so realistic, and more stimulating than the real thing, that men will have the opportunity to learn to control ejaculation. Enter the Fleshlight Training Unit!
Busting a nut too fast is embarrassing and can become an emotional problem for some men. Some men turn to delay creams, cock rings or other devices, but really, the solution is fairly straight forward – more frequent sex and learn to control ejaculation during sex.
If you have a steady understanding sexual partner, focus on controlling ejaculation for a while instead of sexual gratification (for yourself that is). If you feel you may cum, stop, and ask her to stop, then when you feel you can go again – keep going, continue doing this and it should make a difference (over time) – the Fleshlight STU works using similar techniques.
The Fleshlight Stamina Training Unit is the first Fleshlight product designed not only for pleasure but to help men control premature ejaculation. This means you can work while you play.
Using the STU will not only give you an unbelievable orgasm but also help you last longer in bed. The inside texture of the STU is filled with soft nodules to replicate the intense feeling of being with a woman. If you can last 10 minutes in the Fleshlight after training, then you can last 20 minutes in bed with a woman.
Fleshlights are the number one selling male sex toy in the world. If you’re already going to be masturbating, why not also be training yourself to last longer in bed.
2. Use PC Muscles to Last Longer
A set of exercises, known as Kegel exercises, were invented many decades ago for the strengthening of some of the primary muscles involved in the sexual organs of both men and women. They have not seen the widespread circulation they should have, as they offer men with ejaculation issues a way to help gain control of their orgasms! Here we present some basic advice to men on using Kegel exercises to achieve a more satisfying sexual performance.
You can control the intensity and frequency of your orgasms by flexing your PC muscle.
This means you can stop your ejaculation by working on your pc muscle and learning how to control it. The best way to do this is by using Kegel exercises.
Kegals are a pelvic floor exercise designed to strengthen the pubococcygeal muscles. If these muscles are strong, they can give you more control over when you ejaculate.
These muscles are located at the bottom of the pelvis between your scrotum and anus. You can feel them contract during ejaculation or if you stop yourself mid-way through urinating. Once you know where they are, exercising them is as simple as contracting and relaxing them, which can be performed almost anywhere and at any time.
This is another cheap and easy technique, however effectiveness can vary and it may take a month or two before you see any results.
What are Kegels?
First, you need to be familiar with the muscles that make up the pubococcygeus muscle. The pubococcygeus (PC) is like a hammock of muscle that holds the pelvic organs in place.
Kegel exercises are a way to work out the muscles of the pelvic floor and were named after Dr. Arnold Kegel who discovered, studied and proved their effectiveness. They were originally designed to increase control of urination in women after childbirth but worked as well for tightening the muscles of the vagina itself.
Yes, the exercises were invented for women, but it turns out the sexual benefits work well for men also – the PC muscle in men controls and supports the penis. Men who develop their PC can enjoy the benefits of having increased bladder and ejaculation control. It has also been claimed that these exercises can increase the intensity of orgasms.
Are you ready to learn how to strengthen the pelvic floor and reduce premature ejaculation?
What do I need to do?
First, you must find and isolate the PC muscle. You can easily do this while standing in the bathroom while urinating. Do not do this if you badly have to urinate! Holding back that pressure is not healthy for the PC – this is only used as a test.
The better way is to choose a time when your body hasn’t got a ton of urine to get rid of, which should reduce the pressure and make the test safe to perform. After half of your bladder has emptied, try to stop it mid-flow. If you can slow or stop it, you’ve scrunched the right muscles.
Another test for men involves making your erect penis move up and down by ‘scrunching’ the muscles of the perineum – surrounding the base of the penis and around the anus. If you can make your penis move up, even just a little, then you’ve probably tightened the PC muscles. Familiarize yourself with how the PC feels, but don’t practice holding back urination – it’s just too stressful on the body.
Now, perform this routine, which is remarkably simple (the key to success is in simple regular repetition).
In a comfortable position (this could even be sitting at your desk at work – it’s a hidden exercise), tighten your PC muscles for 4 – 6 seconds, and then relax for about the same. You’ve just completed one repletion (rep). Repeat this about 30 times, 3 times per day. This should be continued for at least a week, better if you perform it for two.
Now that you have some basic muscle tone built up, you may begin to increase the number of reps. Do this by doubling your previous number of reps, up to 60, 3 times per day using the same 4 – 6 second tighten-and-release
.If you begin to feel pain or discomfort in any way, ease back on how you tighten your PC or reduce the number or reps to a comfortable level. Increase reps when it feels comfortable again to do so. Continue this for another week.
Increase your reps again to 80 or so per set, which you will perform 3 times per day. Again, be sensitive to overstressing the muscles and ease back if you experience pain.
Increase your reps again to 100 or so per set, which you will perform 3 times per day. This will bring you to performing 300 Kegels per day, which is the basic recommendation made by the doctor in his original writings. Some say that you could continue this for the rest of your life if you wanted to, but performing it for at least several months should show measurable results.
You can also improve the effectiveness of your Kegel exercises by taking supplements that enhance and nourish the tissues of the genital area. Semenax™(www.semenax.com) is an all natural supplement containing ingredients that can increase ejaculation control by feeding and strengthening the tissues of the penis and pelvic area.
- Locate the muscle- when peeing try and stop the pee mid flow. The muscle that you used to stop the flow is the same muscle you will use to stop you from ejaculating. It is the same kind of flexing that makes your erect penis move up and down.
- Flex the PC muscle every day for 10 minutes- training the pc muscle to work to your advantage takes time and patience. Start by flexing your muscle and holding it for 5 seconds then release. Keep doing this every day for 10 minutes.
3. Behavioral Strategies
It involves pausing for a few seconds while having sex and allowing your body to cool off before you can continue.
However, this will only be effective if you know how to time it right. You’ve to understand how your body works and signs of excitement. A second too late and you will have shot your load.
You can also change the rhythm or slow down to reduce arousal to about 4/10. At this point you can resume stimulation and when you reach peak stimulation repeat the above process until you are ready to ejaculate.
4. Lots of Foreplay
Foreplay is king.
Most women love a man who knows how to work her body even without penetrating.
How will foreplay help me not to nut so fast?
Increasing the time spent on foreplay will lower your sexual excitement and it increases your chances of making your girl achieve an orgasm. That’s a win-win situation. Everybody gets what they want.
The idea of skipping foreplay and heading straight to sex elicits a lot of mental stimulation. This increases the chances of premature ejaculation.
Spend a little bit longer exploring her body and by the time you are penetrating her, your excitement will have reduced.
Plus, Women Dig Foreplay
Most women love foreplay, it turns them on, makes them dripping wet and helps them orgasm.
If she achieves an orgasm before you do, she won’t even remember if you came quick or not, as long as she got what she wanted.
Use your tongue to explore her body and get her toes curling, asking for more. By the time you are having sex, she will be close to the edge such that a few strokes will be enough to achieve an orgasm.
5. Use the Squeeze Technique
Next time you are about to bust a nut prematurely, try squeezing your penis between the glans and the shaft for 30 seconds.
Allow the sensation to subside, stimulate your penis and continue giving her world-class strokes.
This method is very effective, however, it affects your erection. A little stimulation should fix that problem. Repeat this process for about 4-5 times until you can’t hold it any longer.
This method might work but it needs both partners to agree on doing it. You can teach your partner how to execute the squeeze technique so that he/she feels involved.
It takes a lot of time and patience to master this technique. It also disrupts sexual activity which can be very frustrating even for an understanding partner.
Continue performing this technique until you are able to delay ejaculation without squeezing your penis.
6. Masturbation (Jacking off Before Sex)
Prolonged masturbation is a method that can be used to reverse the psychological conditioning mentioned earlier. Whereas you may have conditioned yourself to ejaculate quickly during adolescence, you now condition yourself to last longer by indulging in longer masturbation sessions.
Masturbate until you are just about to ejaculate and then stop. Continue again when you feel it is safe to do so. Do this three times and on the fourth time allow yourself to ejaculate. With practice you can effectively ‘teach’ your body and mind to last longer.
This is a cheap and simple technique that you can use right away, however it may take a month or two before you start to see any positive effects. In addition, success rates using this method vary from person to person, results ranging from a complete cure to making no difference whatsoever.
Masturbation has worked for many men why shouldn’t it work for you?
Beat your meat at least 2 hours before sex. By the time you are having sex with your partner, you will not be as sensitive to stimulation.
Masturbation before sex will help reduce the build-up of ‘sexual drive’.
However, masturbation is not recommended for everyone. Some men can only ejaculate once in a day while others are unable to perform with a high sexual drive after masturbating.
It is only recommended for men who haven’t cum in a long time. Masturbation will help reduce some of that build-up and make it easy for you to perform for a little bit longer.
7. Switch Positions Before Cummin
Don’t remain in one position for too long, try changing the positions every time you are about to bust a nut.
Some sex positions are so good you can’t help but cum fast. Avoid these positions until you are sure you have ‘over delivered’ and want to cum.
Begin with a position that isn’t too sensitive for you and as you change positions you get a few seconds to catch your breath.
If there is something that really bugs most men, it’s cumming too quick.
You’ve probably experienced a situation like this where you’ve brought home a fine looking woman and you are sure you will tap this all night.
You get into your apartment horny as shit, you don’t even bother to put on a condom, bend her over on the kitchen counter and start giving it to her.
One minute into the job and you already feel like you are about to bust a nut. You try to hold your nut longer but less than 20 seconds later, your load comes knocking at the door. And bam! You spray it all over her.
She turns back, looks at you and yells, “Seriously? Two minutes is all you got?” She pulls up her dress and slips away disgruntled.
Do You Bust a Nut SO Fast?
Men are not born great lovers, they are made… and to be a great lover, you must be able to last longer in bed!
Yes, its an old, well-worn quote, but it is true. To be a great lover you need stamina and staying power in the sack.
Not only to please a woman but to extend and maximize on your own pleasure!
Having the ability to last longer in bed and control ejaculation leads to intense sex – women take longer than men to get fully aroused and a great lover must realize this if he is to reach his full sexual potential.
Ask any woman what they consider the biggest let down in bed and they are likely to say, “It was all over before I was even aroused”. Especially the younger woman with younger men! Premature ejaculation is more common with single young men.
This makes sense, younger men are hornier, have higher testosterone levels than older men, and focus highly on intercourse vs lovemaking. Young single men tend to go longer between sexual encounters as well, and this is a major part of premature, or quick ejaculation.
Unfortunately, Premature ejaculation is a condition that affects more than 30% of men and the remaining 70% have experienced it at least once. It can be caused by various factors such as stress, anxiety, high blood pressure or diabetes.